One morning God went to look at His beautiful flowers and He smiled at their beauty, but the closer He got, something seemed odd…..they were murmuring…what were they saying? So he got closer. They were complaining! The petunia wanted to be a rose! The rose wanted to be a sunflower! The amaryllis wanted to be peonies! Oh my, All but just a few were moaning and complaining about being something different! God could not believe what He was hearing. Surely they could appreciate their own beauty and uniqueness, not one of them was just a like!! And they were all beautiful! “They will settle down and see that they are best just as they are,” God told Himself.
A few days later God again returned to admire the beautiful flowers and again they were murmuring. God was disappointed that they had not been able to recognize that they were wonderfully and fearfully made and that He loved them all the same. So he granted their wishes. “There now, perhaps they will be happy, but I had a better plan.”
Once again in a few days God returned to the beautiful bed of flowers expecting them all to be singing and laughing and soaking in the sunshine, for He had granted their requests! Instead He heard them murmuring and whining about not liking the new flower they had become. “It’s too high up here, I am getting dizzy!” "I don’t like it down here, I can’t see anything!” “This color does not compliment my complexion!” “I’ve changed my mind. I would rather be a lily not a peony or an amaryllis! Yes, a lily would be much better for me!”
“Listen to me, for I am your creator. You were all created special with certain colors and sizes and unique shapes. You were all created for a specific purpose. You can never be happy being anything but what you were designed for!” Admire each other and grow together, but be what you are and celebrate yourself! I love you and I know what I am doing.” And so with a whisper and a touch He turned the flowers back to what they were in the beginning. Oh what a relief to be in their own skin! How natural and free it felt! God smiled.
How many times do we look this way or that trying to be “something or someone”? Women are especially good at this. We look at someone and think oh I want her life…she has everything she wants and goes anywhere and drives a fancy car, etc…. I want that! We are so unhappy with our own blessings because our eyes are on someone else's, or what we think are their blessings. Truth might be, that if you were given her life with those “things” you might realize that what comes with that is a sad and lonely woman full of hurts who is covering them up with stuff. I am not saying every woman like that is sad, I’m just saying you don’t know everything, so don’t assume. What might be great for someone else might not be a good fit for you! We seem to look at and glamorize other things without realizing the reality of it. Like being a big star! Sure looks good on the outside but maybe not so much on the inside. “I want to sing like so and so, or teach like so and so, or have that career, or stay home, or on and on!” We are always looking around comparing ourselves to someone else and falling short in our own eyes, but what about our Creator’s eyes? How does He see us?
Why don’t we just find out what WE were created for and what OUR gifts are and BLOOM there?
Not only do we put awkward unreachable expectations on ourselves, but we allow others to do it as well! Several years ago, I lightheartedly asked a man in my church, “When are you going to let D___ be what God has gifted her to be and let her teach women about being mothers. She is so wise!” “I know,” he said. “But she is doing exactly what God has gifted her to do. She is my wife and the mother of our seven children, and she knows that is her calling right now and she loves it.” He was very sweet about it and I thought, “Oh wow, that is true!” And the longer I knew her, the more I knew she was doing exactly what she was supposed to and being exactly who she was supposed to – nothing less and nothing more. She was very content to be her. She understood her calling and balance. She made time for herself, her health, her God, her husband, and her children and they got the best of her. Truly she was very WISE! She is a very godly woman and full of Godly wisdom, and I saw an incredible teacher. Those were MY expectations, not God's and not at that time. She was wise enough to know it.
Do you want to be content? Be exactly who God created you to be. Find your gifts and be YOU! Want to be unhappy? Try to be someone else. Who am I? What am I like? What kind of people do I like to be around? Why? What makes me laugh and what makes me content? What an I passionate about? What are my priorities right now? Start thinking about these things and more! Pray and ask God to show you how He made you and what He made you for, and for goodness sake, LISTEN!! Don’t compare yourself to the other flowers! BE YOU! It’s the best fit and you will feel great in it!!!